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I think it's time somebody answered the unspoken question SleepyJack proposed in his initial entry..... why is his asshole friend being taken back by the girl? I think I'm justified in calling him the asshole friend only because from the girl's perspective he was one when she dumped him, right? Whatever his friendship status with sleepy, it's a completely different situation from dating.....
With that aside, here's my thoughts on sleepy's question: Men and women have a strong desire to feel a connection with someone - call it love, call it lust, call it blueberry pancakes for all I care - and this results in extreme feelings of loss whenever a relationship is sundered. Since most people out there tend to feel such losses quite deeply, going back to the 'ex really does look like an attractive option for a while after the break-up.
This is what results in so many reunions with jerks of both sexes....people don't want to be alone.
Sleepyjack, make a point of doing the "Vulture Move".....circle until the next time she breaks up with him, and if she's everything you've hinted at in your entry then go after her like there's no tomorrow! Your friend will be a bit put-out, but if they've actually broken up (and especially if it's due to him cheating on her again) then it was over when you made your move and ultimately it's your own happiness that you have to work toward.
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