|
I don't think there are soulmates per se, but I do believe in finding someone so compatible that it is almost scary. I also believe that there are many people that you could be with (just with varying degrees of happiness). I found my wife in a strange way. I was in Engineering grad school, and she was in Education grad school at the Univ. of Oklahoma. We lived about 1/4 mile away from each other. My fraternity had functioned with her sorority around 6 times. However she was not the party type and never went to functions. Even if I had met her at one of those drunken parties, it is unlikely we would have ever connected except in the most superficial of ways. Instead, I was getting frustrated by the lack of women I was meeting and decided to try putting a personal ad in a local Oklahoma City paper. She was one of two girls that responded, and the rest is history. We think alike in so many ways. She is my best friend, etc. I think it was no accident that I had found her at that point in my life. I was 25 and a bit more mature than I had been a couple of years ago. I had ceased judging women strictly on how fast they would go to bed with me or how "hot" they were. My wife is very nice looking, but she wasn't the sluttier type I would have gone for 2 years previously. We were both just at points in our lives where we were ready to meet someone seriously, and it worked out.
|