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raeanna74 · 09-22-2003, 10:49 AM

I get resent those women that complain because a man held a door open for them. I personally don't make a distinction. If I'm to the door handle before someone else I will hold the door for that person. If I'm out on a date and my date opens the door for me I say thank you. It's not a matter of who is inferior or who is better than the other. It's a matter of respect. If I were a man I would give up my seat to a woman simply out of respect for women.

Think of what your mother went through for you. You men cannot imagine the pain, discomfort and all the problems that come with pregnancy let along the pain of labor and childbirth (I did go through labor and had C-section - still painful). You mother did it. Any women who gives birth did it. Doing things that are chivilrous is a matter of respect. If people respected each other like they should there wouldn't be this resentment that many of you express toward the other sex. I would definately give up my seat for anyone who needed a little extra help be it pregnant, elderly, handicapped, or even just looking tired and frazzled. It's a matter of respect and caring for another person.

I appreciate men who are willing to show courtesy and respect. I admire them but I won't EXPECT them to give up their seat.

I run in circles where sometimes the men even expect the woman to stay in her seat in the car until he can come around to open her door. Or even standing when a woman enters the room. I don't expect it (sometimes I still am surprised by it) They seem to view it as being allowed to be leader in that they are taking care of the other person.

As a wife I have found that everyone is happy if I let hubby get the chance to play the boss. I do many things that aren't Traditional Woman's roles but I know it makes hubby happy to let him do certain things. It's the other way around too. When hubby opens doors for me, pulls out he chair for me, etc. it makes me feel appreciated and valued. it's an effort that is made to be kind and caring. If the other person doesn't appreciate it that doesn't mean it lessens the value of what you did.

It won't make you any less of a man to be chivilrous. In fact if you are completely against the idea of expressing respect in this way I would probably NEVER want to date you.

09-22-2003, 10:49 AM	#73 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I get resent those women that complain because a man held a door open for them. I personally don't make a distinction. If I'm to the door handle before someone else I will hold the door for that person. If I'm out on a date and my date opens the door for me I say thank you. It's not a matter of who is inferior or who is better than the other. It's a matter of respect. If I were a man I would give up my seat to a woman simply out of respect for women. Think of what your mother went through for you. You men cannot imagine the pain, discomfort and all the problems that come with pregnancy let along the pain of labor and childbirth (I did go through labor and had C-section - still painful). You mother did it. Any women who gives birth did it. Doing things that are chivilrous is a matter of respect. If people respected each other like they should there wouldn't be this resentment that many of you express toward the other sex. I would definately give up my seat for anyone who needed a little extra help be it pregnant, elderly, handicapped, or even just looking tired and frazzled. It's a matter of respect and caring for another person. I appreciate men who are willing to show courtesy and respect. I admire them but I won't EXPECT them to give up their seat. I run in circles where sometimes the men even expect the woman to stay in her seat in the car until he can come around to open her door. Or even standing when a woman enters the room. I don't expect it (sometimes I still am surprised by it) They seem to view it as being allowed to be leader in that they are taking care of the other person. As a wife I have found that everyone is happy if I let hubby get the chance to play the boss. I do many things that aren't Traditional Woman's roles but I know it makes hubby happy to let him do certain things. It's the other way around too. When hubby opens doors for me, pulls out he chair for me, etc. it makes me feel appreciated and valued. it's an effort that is made to be kind and caring. If the other person doesn't appreciate it that doesn't mean it lessens the value of what you did. It won't make you any less of a man to be chivilrous. In fact if you are completely against the idea of expressing respect in this way I would probably NEVER want to date you. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.