I don't "do" guilt, at least not when I'm conscious of how I'm being. I just wrote a journal entry about this, which I suspect may have contributed to you starting this thread, Cyn. For me, guilt is something I pull out to reaffirm that I'm a good person. See my journal for more about that. Bottom line, guilt doesn't change my behavior, it just validates that I'm okay, because I feel bad about doing bad.
I think I'd disagree that guilt is a good teacher. Mostly guilt shuts us down, stops us from taking risks, keeps us playing safe and small. In my opinion, guilt is a bad teacher. We human beings are very quick to believe things that shrink us, and it's hard for us to hear, believe, and stick with the things that have us grow. Guilt shrinks us.
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