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Originally posted by Cynthetiq
Chavos, I think that it's coverd by the habitual guilt, left over from childhood type, "if you loved mommy you wouldn't do this..."
letting friends and familiy down is a hard thing to deal with... just how do you deal with it?
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My dad was an emotional blackmailer. Started when I was a toddler. Everytime he wanted me to do something he'd make out like he'd be hurt if I didn't. That kind of guilt works real well on a little child. By the time I got to the teenage years, whenever he'd start out with, "If you loved your father...." I'd answer, "YEAH? WHAT? WHAT?" He would never finish. He knew he was out of line.
I do feel maybe too responsible for things that happen around me in the world, and sometimes think that if I had done something a little better, bad things might not have happened; this isn't always realistic. But boy, I've got emotional blackmail nailed to the wall. I can sniff it a mile away. And when somebody hands it to me, I always.... hand it back.