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Originally posted by motdakasha
It sounds like the only thing you're thinking about is making sure he still has someone to bump uglies with.
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Nothing could be further from the truth.
Before I hand out advice - I try to look at <i>all</i> of the possible consequences of each action.
How would you feel if <b>Mypro's</b> next post was something along the lines of "Well - I took everybody's advice - I confessed the affair to my wife, and now she's left me, won't return my calls, and is sueing for sole custody and outrageous alimony due to my infidelity."?
I just told him he'd better have a pretty good idea of how she's going to react before opening that can of worms.
Your health concern is justified - he could take care of that by being tested himself.
Like I said before. <b>motdakasha</b>, confessing might be the ethical and moral thing to do, but the marriage might have a better chance if he makes up for it in other ways. Guilt is a great motivator.