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Originally posted by JStrider
before you end it with the mistress come clean with your wife... it will be better for her to hear it from you then the other woman...
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I agree. Not only that, but if the mistress goes off the deep end and starts stalking him or something, the wife can be there to help him fend her off. Might even be some (re)bonding with the wife involved.
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Originally posted by yournamehere
I've read every response to this thread, and I commend everyone who responded. I would agree, for the most part, except for one issue - coming clean with your wife.
Is it the ethical and moral thing to do? Of course. Is it the right thing to do? Perhaps not.
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I disagree. I think that's a rather selfish approach to the situation. Why would you withhold important information possibly about her health (STIs)? It sounds like the only thing you're thinking about is making sure he still has someone to bump uglies with. There's no question in my mind that he should probably end it with the mistress seeing as how it's only physical and she's not the sharpest tool in the shed. Honestly, if the wife is not willing to patch things up with him, then maybe he's better off starting from scratch... alone. He's given her enough credit in the noggin department to make me believe she's probably mature enough to handle the next blow.
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Originally posted by yournamehere
Right now - if you dump your g/f and commit to making it work with your wife - your marriage may survive. If you add the knowledge of betrayal to the mix, how can that help things? Maybe it will reduce your guilt, but this isn't only about you.
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Honestly, I think the first step in making it work with the wife is being completely honest. Lies, as we've seen already, create a rather depressing downward spiral and it sounds like he's looking to get
out of it, not deeper.