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I've read every response to this thread, and I commend everyone who responded. I would agree, for the most part, except for one issue - coming clean with your wife.

Is it the ethical and moral thing to do? Of course. Is it the right thing to do? Perhaps not.

By dumping your mistress and confessing to your wife, you could very well end up alone. Your marriage is hanging by a thread now - can it survive another trauma? Your wife may head straight to the nearest, best, ball-bustingest lawyer she can find if you confess to an affair.
<i>Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.</i>

Legally, she would have a very large advantage over you - but that's not what I meant.

Right now - if you dump your g/f and commit to making it work with your wife - your marriage may survive. If you add the knowledge of betrayal to the mix, how can that help things? Maybe it will reduce your guilt, but this isn't only about you.

In general - yes - it's better to get everything out in the open and get a fresh start. But in this case, I'm not so sure. <b>Mypro</b> - you know your wife better than all of us do - are you sure you know how she'd react if you come clean? You'd better, if that's your plan.

If I were you, i'd keep a tab on how many great things I'd have to do for her to make up for the affair, and do them all - then do them all again. And keep on doing them.

Good luck to all three of you.

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