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Originally posted by flamingdog
I am looking for someone to refute this point of view in a convincing way, because I'm this close to actually adopting it.
Women are fundamentally duplicitous.
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Allow me to dissect this sentence:
"Women": unless you've met all 3+ billion women on the planet, it seems a little unfair to lump us all together. A more fair characterization might be "a significant number of women whom I've met and whose behavior sticks in my memory because it was so outrageous"
"are": lest I follow in the footsteps of Bill Clinton, wondering what "is" is supposed to mean, I'm gonna leave this one alone.
"fundamentally": You really think they're born that way? That it is an essential part of their being and not a learned behavior?
"duplicitous": There's a difference between being duplicitous and being confused, which is what the behavior you describe above sounds like to me. "They say they want one thing, and yet behave in a completely contrary manner." Maybe they say they want what they think they
should want. Or maybe they really do want that thing but don't recognize it when they see it. Or maybe they want it and they really do also want something else. "They hold the men they claim to want at arm's length." Again - duplicitous or ambivalent?
I'm not sticking up for my fellow women - and of course I claim to be an exception to your broad-brush statement. It is pretty unhealthy to say something that's really not true. But here's something else about women, and maybe this is just as much a stereotype as your statement: a lot of women don't want to hurt people's feelings, so they say things they don't mean. Like "no you don't look fat in those pants," or "I love tuna melt, can I have the recipe?" or "Of course I love you, you're the man of my dreams." Now, it's pretty thoughtless when it's someone's feelings you're toying with and not just their vanity. But understand that people - not just women - misrepresent themselves for a variety of reasons.
Also consider that perhaps it's not all women that are duplicitous but just the ones you seem to keep meeting over and over and over again - who are you looking for, and is it possible that you just keep meeting the same personality in a different body?