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I don't know about managing it well but I am managing it.
I think I tend to use feeling guilty as a substitute for action:
Doing something wrong or not doing something right + feeling guilty = lurkette is still a good person, because she feels bad about being baaaaaaad.
This means I don't have to do anything besides feel guilty.
Lately, I've been trying to see what actions I can take that would have me not feel guilty and would still have me be happy with myself.
So, for instance, I eat a bowl of ice cream I shouldn't have. Instead of feeling guilty, I'll eat salad for dinner or go to the gym.
I don't give a homeless guy money. Instead of feeling guilty about it, I give money to the local homeless shelter, or call up and volunteer.
I bought a new pair of shoes I didn't need. I give one of my older but still nice pair of shoes to the Goodwill.
Not only do I end up doing good things, but I spare myself the useless anguish of feeling guilty but not really changing anything.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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