I've been digesting the posts you've left, as well as the replies logged by everybody who took the time and cared enough, and I realized that was exactly the point....
Take the time and care enough.
Whatever your reasons, you've landed yourself in a situation which comes with its own little world of hurt and guilt. You're going to be there for a while - and in the doghouse with your wife for some time after the hurtin' stops - but what everybody has said so far is true: make sure that your daughter isn't a casualty of your marital problems.
Come completely clean with your wife, and remember to accept full responsibility for your choices; your marital problems are something which both you and your wife are responsible for, but your infidelity is your own bag, baby! By owning up for this(especially to your wife), you'll be showing her that while there are problems, you're a big enough person to shoulder whatever's needed on your part to resolve them.
Good luck. I don't know your wife, and I only know you from your writing, so this could go in any of a number of directions. Just remember to be there for your daughter no matter what, however this ends up.
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