rodgerd

1/ If you're not medically overweight, then you don't really have anything to worry about.

Sounds like your boy may be suffering from some unrealistic ideas about what fat is. I know a couple of women your height and weight (around 50 kilos); both are tiny, and neither are what I'd describe as fat. If anything, I suspect you'd have been verging on underweight at 45 kilos.

3/ I've told partners if I think they're getting to the point where they're unhealthy or hurting my ability to find them attractive, but it's awkward to do tactfully. And it's something that needs to be a realistic assesment. There's a difference between "fat" and "not suffering from Hollywood Shrinking Disease."

It's also something that can't be dropped without being prepared to do something to help out - modifying how you eat as a couple, for example.

4/ Yeah. I've lost a bit of weight in the last year (about 10 kilos, or 20 pounds), and my wife announced, "that's good, you were beginning to get chubby." I could have done with hearing that when I'd put on 5 kilos from my original weight...