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Originally posted by mypro
Yep, she knows I'm married. She also knows I'm not in love with my wife and am thinking about divorce. The mistress obviously is pushing me to get divorced, so we can be together without hiding it. -Mypro
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I'm a little late with this, but I just think this is total bullshit on the part of the mistress. WTF? Did she forget about the crazy ex's of hers? Maybe you could be together without hiding it from your (ex) wife, but not w/out hiding it altogether. She's putting all the pressure on you, which is a bad sign.
As far as a clean break, I think you gotta come clean with your wife. That both disarms the mistress and relieves your guilt somewhat. If you're really committed to staying, and you make it work, the guilt will get to you eventually. Head it off by confessing.
I would confess with a lot of emphasis on WHY you felt the need to cheat, as far as her being a prude. You gotta be fair to yourself and get something out of it for you in exchange for staying. Let her know, in a non-hateful way, that she needs to meet you halfway on the sex thing.
WARNING FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE: Do NOT mention the thing about her not orgasming!!! Mention everything else, but not that. Doing so will make her feel like something's wrong with her, she'll focus on it, and the problem will get worse, not better.
Instead, focus on her willingness to try new things. Once she loosens up, work on getting her to masturbate for you and work towards an orgasm that way. Don't make her fell self-conscious, that'll guarantee she never has one.
Just my $.02. Best of luck.