My parents got divorced twice - once when I was about 4 (they got remarried when I was about 6 or so) and again when I was 18. For the most part we (the kids) were happy about it - they should never have been married in the first place, and certainly never should have gotten re-married.
I don't remember going through the first divorce, although I heard stories about it - who did what to whom, what we kids said, etc. The second divorce, even though I was older and knew it was for the best, was still hard. I'd just started college, and basically my mom gave my dad an ultimatum: go to AA or move out. He moved out. It was really hard to be in the middle, and it was particularly hard on my siblings, who were still at home. My dad would do stuff like just walk into the house without knocking (his thinking: he'd lived there for 15 years, why shouldn't he knock?) and my mom would ask us to tell him not to do it because he'd listen to us. Sheesh. Stuff like that. It was particularly hard on my brother - my dad hardly spent any time with us in the first place, but spent even less time after the divorce, and my brother blamed the lack of attention on my mom.
Anyhow, enough of my family soap opera.
Some stuff to watch for, though, is being put in the middle. Don't let them do that to you. If they have something to say to each other, make them say it. Refuse to listen to them dish shit on each other. Don't you play them off each other, either. If you have younger siblings, make sure they know it's not their fault, and make sure they have someone to talk to about it, preferably someone not in the family.
As much as you know it's for the best, it still sucks and I'm sorry. This is never how anybody wants things to turn out.
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