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4thTimeLucky · 04-25-2003, 02:05 PM

I guess the way I speak and act is pretty different.

TFP is so different to real conversations. You see it to lesser and greater extents, but people talk over and at each other rather to each other here.

In an offline conversation I am trying to learn about/convince/entertain clearly defined people who I build a rapport with (or don't, as the case may be!). My words are aimed at a person, and theirs at me.

On TFP there is a common theme (the post title usually) and people say what they think about it. Their comments will follow on from what others have said, sometimes even engaging in it, but usually the relationship is between the speaker and the thread, not between the speakers themselves.

Take the people in this forum. I have no real idea who any of you are, whether you listen to what I say (rather than hear what I say) or how you react. If you had read all the 40 posts I've written you'd have quite a good insight into who I am as a person, but as it is you might at best recognise my name from other threads as I do some of yours.

In real life I would never get away with saying all of this in one go and I wouldn't be able to go back and edit it.

Not that different is worse. At the moment for me TFP is about ideas not people. I can get advice and see what other people think of things. Part of me thinks that in time it would be nice if I had relationships with people in TFP and talk to people not at them (I guess this comes with time and the high posters members forum). Another part of me thinks that reaching that stage would mean I had become far too adicted to TFP.

I know double posting is bad, but here goes -

04-25-2003, 02:05 PM	#18 (permalink)
4thTimeLucky Psycho Location: 4th has left the building - goodbye folks	I guess the way I speak and act is pretty different. TFP is so different to real conversations. You see it to lesser and greater extents, but people talk over and at each other rather to each other here. In an offline conversation I am trying to learn about/convince/entertain clearly defined people who I build a rapport with (or don't, as the case may be!). My words are aimed at a person, and theirs at me. On TFP there is a common theme (the post title usually) and people say what they think about it. Their comments will follow on from what others have said, sometimes even engaging in it, but usually the relationship is between the speaker and the thread, not between the speakers themselves. Take the people in this forum. I have no real idea who any of you are, whether you listen to what I say (rather than hear what I say) or how you react. If you had read all the 40 posts I've written you'd have quite a good insight into who I am as a person, but as it is you might at best recognise my name from other threads as I do some of yours. In real life I would never get away with saying all of this in one go and I wouldn't be able to go back and edit it. Not that different is worse. At the moment for me TFP is about ideas not people. I can get advice and see what other people think of things. Part of me thinks that in time it would be nice if I had relationships with people in TFP and talk to people not at them (I guess this comes with time and the high posters members forum). Another part of me thinks that reaching that stage would mean I had become far too adicted to TFP. I know double posting is bad, but here goes - __________________ I've been 4thTimeLucky, you've been great. Goodnight and God bless!