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I was once engaged to a man who was 10 years my senior. I was only 19 at the time. I broke off the relationship as I matured and began to see things in a wiser light. It wasn't that the age was the problem with our relationship. It was my immaturity and as I grew up we grew apart.
I think a big part of it is that the younger participate in a relationship such as this is often not mature enough to grow and mature at the same pace as the older one. We all knoe that children grow at different rates as they age. We do the same as adults mentally and emotionally. Once you pass you biological prime you begin to slow down. If the older person is technically past their prime and the younger one hasn't even reached it yet then theoretically they will out grow their partner. One of the best part of a marriage is the tandam growth of the two partners.
Like other said above here too. A lot of it has to do with the gold diggers and such that have give it a bad name so to speak. In terms of the talk show situation. I would hesitate to encourage the girl because she hasn't even reached the legal drinking age yet. The state sets that age because adults who are younger than 21 tend to more frequently be immature. I would probably encourage her to wait for marriage at least for a couple years. I would also encourage her to use Birth control very carefully until she is positive that as she matures they don't grow apart.
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