pappymojo

OK. So I have had a crush on this girl that I work with for about a year now. At the time, she was going out with this guy that I thought was an asshole. I got to know her, and became her friend and then started to realize how beautiful she is.

Right around New Years she broke up with the guy she was going out with. I waited until February (Valentines Day) to tell her how wonderful she was and then to ask her out. I took her out for drinks a couple of times. We really had a lot of fun together. She was laughing and playing with her hair, but at other times she seemed kind of timid.

I didn't want to be pushy. So after the second time out, I only kind of half assed kissed her. She was timid, and I could kind of feel her pulling back.

So, anyways, at that point I told that I really dug her and thought she was amazing. She told me that she was not ready for a relationship. OK.

I tried to move on, but really couldn't. We still traded emails, and she confessed that she is pretty self conscious and that she has not had too many boyfriends. Those she has had have been jerks in one way or another. She is a petite girl. In the meantime, I have hooked up with girls that were hotter than her, but I cant think of anyone that I would consider to be more beautiful.

This girl and I, we really get along well. She has a poor self image, which I think that I have helped her to overcome. I've told her about a half a million times how beautiful that I thought that she was. She's really funny with amazing long hair and sweet legs and a cute butt.

We've been out drinking in groups together where I have rubbed her knee or held her hand when talking to her or even snuck a kiss when she wasn't expecting it. I've never gotten over her, and I think about her a lot.

OK, so recently I asked her out for drinks one final time and she said yes, but then due to schedule problems (equally my fault and hers) we've been putting it off. It looks like it is finally going to happen and that we are going to get together. She did include the following message in her last email though:

I guess I feel like I should warn you that I'm not looking for anything and I’m just looking to go out and have a good time and a good talk, etc. Does that make sense?

Now, I am a fairly good looking guy. I'm 6 feet tall and 190 pounds. I've been working out consistantly since New Years and I'm in good shape. I'm funny and gentle and patient (and I almost have a six pack from doing a million sit ups).

I want this girl to think of me as more than just a friend.

I think that part of the problem is that all of the guys she has been with have been jerks. I don't think she's used to a nice boy.

Also, the last time we went out for drinks, I don't know if I was aggressive enough.

So, we are getting together for drinks. How do I approach it? I would like to hear from girls and boys. I want to respect her feelings, but I also want her to understand how good it could be. How do I play it?

Thanks!