First good time was with my second girlfriend (now wife) With my first girlfriend, we were both inexperienced and shy. I couldn't get her excited if my life depended on it! I wish I could go back in time and satisfy her like she deserved.
With my wife, I took my time. She always tells people she was worried I didn't like her or find her attractive since I didn't try anything. It took me a month or so to move my hands down to her butt. We did a lot of oral and foreplay before we finally "did it" It was almost a year later from when we first started dating. I think that by taking it slowly and finding other ways of pleasing her has helped us keep going all these years. Besides, I used to be a "Quick Draw McGraw" A couple of pumps and BAM, I was spent. Luckily, things have improved greatly over the years.
