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motdakasha · 09-02-2003, 08:10 PM

I'm guessing it's a dependency/trust/confidence issue. She's probably the kind of person who utterly relies on their SO to live and breath. Maybe she doesn't trust you'll come back or something silly. Maybe she's has insecurities and needs to make a big show out of PDA (pet peeve).

Try explaining to her that it's not necessary to be glued at the hips 24-7 for people to know and see you're a couple. Remind her that you don't mind being seen in public at other times, it's just that sometimes you need space--time to be just you. Reassure her that once that time has passed, you will go back to PDA. Honestly, it's a tough situation because she sounds so insecure. Really, the best way to go about it would be a counselor, but there is a cost issue there.

Personally, if she doesn't lay off on you about that and just doesn't get it, I would leave her. That's just me though. Excessive PDA irks me to no end.

09-02-2003, 08:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	I'm guessing it's a dependency/trust/confidence issue. She's probably the kind of person who utterly relies on their SO to live and breath. Maybe she doesn't trust you'll come back or something silly. Maybe she's has insecurities and needs to make a big show out of PDA (pet peeve). Try explaining to her that it's not necessary to be glued at the hips 24-7 for people to know and see you're a couple. Remind her that you don't mind being seen in public at other times, it's just that sometimes you need space--time to be just you. Reassure her that once that time has passed, you will go back to PDA. Honestly, it's a tough situation because she sounds so insecure. Really, the best way to go about it would be a counselor, but there is a cost issue there. Personally, if she doesn't lay off on you about that and just doesn't get it, I would leave her. That's just me though. Excessive PDA irks me to no end. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.) Last edited by motdakasha; 09-02-2003 at 08:14 PM..