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By definition, if you have doubts then it isn't meant to be. When people asked me "how do you know when it is right" etc. I just say "if you have to ask..." When it is right, you will know. There is no magic age number for when you should get married. I was married at 24 but I had had 4 or 5 serious relationships of over a year and had had all the wild oats sowing that one could ever want - had been there, done that, etc. I had always thought, "I'll get married after I'm 30", etc. but if you are mature and experienced in serious relationships - you will know when it is right - you won't ask "how do you know". Live and learn, go out and get laid. Go out and have other relationships. Go out and grow up and live and love and learn - otherwise you will always wonder what is on the other side that you never had. My biggest lesson that I learned before marriage was the difference between infatuation and real lasting love. Infatuation comes from a hot babe with great sex and fun but there isn't any substance 6 months later. Hard to tell the difference when you are in it and it hurts the same when it goes poof. Maybe a year or two from now when you are miserable and lonely and sick of meaningless shallow relationships you will go crawling back to her and maybe she wouldn't have found someone else. You did the right thing - if you have doubts then it isn't time.
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