ninety09, i was in the same boat as you when i was 17/18
i was just starting college when i asked this girl out. after a few months of going out, oral sex (my giving oral to her) was still too uncomfortable for her. this drove me insane; that relationship lasted 11 months, but i probably could've saved both of us a lot of frustration if i had sat down and thought about where my priorities were. I'm not a total perv either, but if i'm not doing too much physically with a girl, i don't see much of a difference between being her boyfriend and just a close friend.
Johnny Rotten: speaking from experience, i think that some people (at least women) could go on indefinitely without sexual urges. the girlfriend i mentioned above had some issues with cleaning herself...suffice to say that i could find blood clots on her pubic hairs frequently. I've speculated that even if she doesn't have any infections, she's too repulsed by the thought of masturbating or anything (as she was with me when i tried to go down on her).
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