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Originally posted by Shyla Loral
We would never hurt each other like that, even voluntarily We do some light s/m, some spanking, and some tying up, but the scarves are so loose that they can be escaped at any time, its symbolic only..
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Not to be critical, just want to clarify terms here - if it doesn't hurt it's not S/M. Sounds more like you are into light bondage and discipline. Which is great! Everyone should be comfortable in what they do.
As for me, I like the full spectrum Bondage Discipline Sado-Masochism (BDSM). In fact, I had the most severe spanking of my life last night, courtesy of i8one2, my Dom, and bf, and it was challenging. We push to the boundaries, and then play within them for awhile, and then try to extend them.
Last night was limit pushing time. Bound, gagged, and spanked. he told me before and during what he was doing, and was gentle and loving in between the slaps. The whole time my mind was cycling - oh my god, he is really hurting me, but I love him and I trust him, and he will stop if I ask. Then I'd think, but if he loves me why does he want to hurt me? Because I like it, but this really hurts! And back around again.
We had lots of kissing and cuddling afterwards and agreed on our pain scale of 1 to 10, a few of those were 11's and based on the welts and bruises rising on my bottom that was the hardest he would ever go.
The result? A bruised bottom (and a sore hand) a limit found, and another connection made between us.