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Um, Angela, I'm sorry, but I would have used the safeword It still sounds "rapelike" to me. You don't have to "give" your husband something painful. Any role playing my hubby and I do is all only if it's comfortable for us. We would never hurt each other like that, even voluntarily We do some light s/m, some spanking, and some tying up, but the scarves are so loose that they can be escaped at any time, its symbolic only.
I would never let him hurt me like that. I have been sexually abused in my childhood, and my ex's, so that would never occur to me.
I am lucky. We have a very healthy and active sex life, and anything that we try that's new or different, we talk about first, and there's lots of love and petting
As far as anal, when we met, I said "I don't do anal", but we're working on that, and on me being comfortable with that. He wouldnt' do anything I wasnt comfortable with.
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