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Here is one of my favorite ways to deal with this label situation. Basically, there is so much gray area between gay, bi, and straight, that I agree with Halx, that it is all in the mind of the individual and how they identify themself. True, when discussing another person's sexuality, people are prone to choosing the label, but give the person the benefit of the doubt...if they're unsure, they're unsure.
To get to the first sentence, my friend had this theory of "percentages." She said that basically, the number of people who prefer one sex 100% to 0% is extremely rare, and that at one point, everyone might think that someone of the same sex is attractive, even if that only happens once, you might be 99% to 1%. So when she was trying to figure out someone's preference, she would explain this, and ask what they considered their preference to be. Also, she and I agreed that percentages fluxuate, and would give each other daily updates. For instance, I'm bi, so under normal circumstances, I would say that I'm about attracted to 60% females and 40% males. This, of course can be further subdivided into emotional attraction and physical, but we'll keep it simple. As for adjustments, I'm in a relationship with a guy right now, so my percentage is totally different, because he totally satisfies my male-wanting side. Today and lately I would say I'm 90% female, 10% male.
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