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I give compliments because I truly care about the person and want to let them know what I appreciate about them. I once taught with a woman who would deny every compliment I gave her. I finally said, "Sue (not her real name), when I give you a compliment and you deny it, I feel kind of like you are calling me a liar. I am honest in what I say and would appreciate a thank you." She was floored -- but she did start saying thank you; and her self esteem went way up!
Recently Lebell has had to remind me of the power of the words, "thank you" when he compliments me. Thank you is always the appropriate response!
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If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god
It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.
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