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Originally posted by Fallon
k, I'm trying to understand this.
In my understanding, I'm going to try to use an example, please tell me if I'm wrong or modify it so it's right...
One of your gripes is that lets say you are going to a resturant, as a male, and you're told that you are going to have to wait. An attractive female comes into the same resturant, and she says she doesn't have a reservation, so in theory, she should have to wait longer then you. So she starts flirting with the guy behind the counter to get a table before you and she gets it. Now, later on, let's say you work with said female she starts complaining that she hates being viewed as a sex toy.
It's a horrible example, but that's about the only thing I got from one of the things you've said...
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This doesn't necessarily demonstrate that she used her sexuality to have her way. A man can have just as much charm or charisma as a woman. It really depends on the approach and the individual. It is completely possible for a good-looking man to convince a woman to give him a table if the roles were reversed, so this argument doesn't hold any water. You are also confusing charm with objectification. Just because she is flirting with the guy, doesn't necessarily mean that she views herself as a sex object or vice versa. Physical attraction is all very superficial, but it also acts as a springboard for getting to know someone better. If he is simply content on an excuse to talk to this attractive woman, then it's really two in two, and everyone gets what they want in the end.