I always called back, but it seems I only reach the woman about one-third of the time. The rest of the time I'm leaving a message on her machine or with a roommate. About half of those times I don't get a call back. Now, if I really like the girl I'll try one more time. No returned call means to me she wasn't in to me all that much and was screening. If the date was just okay, I figure she was screening and doesn't want to return the call. As I got a little older, I just figured screw it, I'm not calling if I don't think it is going anywhere. I almost didn't call my wife back after our first date together because it ended kind of badly. Luckily she fell in the like enough stage that we went out again and that was it for me.
I think that guys just get tired of not having much choice in the matter. Most women seem to have more control of whether they continue seeing a guy or not, and eventually we just get tired of it enough to take matters into our own hands. Is it fair? No. But it isn't quite fair to simply say call me, screen your calls and dump us through not wanting to deal with us.
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