D'oh!  My bad.... Original thread:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=24004
I'll try and call again tonight..  I realize that I need to work on some of my own issues.  I was talking to my friend who was with me, and she said that I did the whole self-put down thing many times that night.  I tend to do this.  Keep people at arms length I suppose.   Coulda turned him off a bit...