A breakup with a long-term girlfriend/boyfriend can take years to get over. Even now I still think about the girlfriends I had early in college (roughly 19 years ago now), but I don't have nostalgic feelings. I mainly use them for mental masturbation material at times. However I would say that the most intense relationship I had lasted around 9 months (living together, sex 10 to 15 times a week) took me about the same length of time to get over to the point where I could effectively date someone else. Divorce is even worse. It can totally destroy you emotionally for a few years. It is rarely permanent, but it just takes time to get over. If you try to circumvent the time aspect in some way, it will come back to bite you in other ways (possible lack of emotional readiness for a new relationship).
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