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Originally posted by Forks
you can whine and cry about how married life isnt for you because you had a bad relationship but the truth of the matter is that you should have been more selective to begin with.
you reap what you sow.
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Firstly, this thread's title is *why on earth would anyone get married?* So it was my belief that one could cite his/her personal reasons for their choices, as well as commenting on marriage in general.
I'm not sure Forks, if you are using the general *you,* like all of us, or *you* as in a person in particular.
I'm happy for the married people that are happy being married.
I just feel a little constrained by some traditional practices of the institution. I dislike being called a *wife* for example. It sounds so anonymous, as in *Joe's wife* or * the wife* or *your wife.*
I dislike some of the traditional roles, such as women still doing the majority of the housework though what, 75% of mothers work outside the home?
I guess some stereotypes get under my skin but conversely, I married for a very traditional reason. I got pregnant outside of marriage. I choose not to abort. When it was financially feasible-- that is when I finished graduate school, I got married. I did it so my son wouldn't be a *bastard.*
That's it. American society still places a stigma upon children born out of wedlock, and I wanted my son to be known securely, legally & without confusion as the son of my husband & me.
I agree with Cyn as well, that people of the same sex do not have the luxuries afforded traditional couples.
It's hard for anyone to reap what they sow, if they are not allowed to sow in the first place.
Finally, I
do love my spouse--maybe not in a traditional, starry-eyed way, but there are many kinds of love and devotion. I didn't and don't need the state & church to sanctify our union to enjoy all of the qualities of a united relationship.