Disclaimer... I'm married so I only put moves on guys once in a blue moon and it's usually only if I know them really well... but... I do understand the concept...
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Originally posted by analog
[B]1. Make moves of your own. ... Once the approach has been made, most guys will see that as a great gesture, and will be a lot more forward themselves.
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or... they'll be scared shitless or, they'll wonder what the woman is up to... the old "hmmm if she's coming on to me, there must be something wrong here"
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2. You don't need make-up ...
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I'm with you on that one. If you can tell that I'm wearing makup, it isn't working...
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3. Long hair is long for a reason. Leave it down. ...
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We know that it looks better down, but some of us only want our lovers to see us that way. Taking our hair down is like taking our clothes off. We would look much prettier in lingerie instead of wearing a dress over it, but...
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4. It's important to make sure the guy knows what you want,...
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you're assuming we know our own feelings... often we don't... we need friends and lovers to help us figure it all out. My husband usually knows more about how I feel than I do and it has always been that way. Don't ask us what we want or how we feel. Gently tell us how you would like us to feel and we'll see if that resonates.
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5. Don't "feel" guys out for their likes. If you like to drink, make it known...
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This is because of an almost instinctive need to please the man were with. If we like the guy, we try to be whoever he wants us to be. I have to fight my own tendancy to do it. Most women are so intrenched in it that they can't even see it.
There's a bigger issue: We need to know that we're going to be safe with you and we can't just ask you that. Almost every woman has either been raped or knows a woman who has. Most of us are scared shitless about it.
On the other hand, we tend to like men who are stronger and more confident than we are. We like to get swept off of our feet(again, I think that's instinctive) So... a lot of the "games" are intended to figure out if you are strong and confident enough to be a turn on but in control of yourself enough to not be violent.
Actually, it isn't very hard for a woman to pursue a man she wants as long as she's willing to face rejection (just like guys do). But that isn't what women usually want. We usually like men who are strong enough to surrender to and trustworthy enough to not take more from us than we want to be taken.
That means we like men who can take getting "shot down" and keep coming, but at the same time, show us that we can trust them.
I know, this just isn't fair, but if you can figure out the balance between strong and trustworthy, you will have no problem getting women to swoon for you.