Emotions Hardwired into Men and Women
I'm wondering how much of what I experience emotionally during sex is "hardwired" into women me, or so deeply conditioned that it is almost instinctive. As a corilary, are there other things that apply to men.
What triggered this question is the difference between my husband and me when we suddenly and unexpectedly get turned on.
Me: He does something to excite me, my heart flutters my knees get week, I want to melt into his arms.
Him: I do something to excite him, his pulse races, his muscles tingle with adrenaline, he wants to reach out and grab me.
Are the weak knees, fluttering, melting things universally female whereas the racing, pulsing, grabbing things universally male? I think so because they are so consistant.
Again, this is when sudden arousal is unexpected. If I'm horny and decide to put some moves on him, it doesn't feel the same to me, but I still have to overcome his natural desire to "take over".
Conversely, if he wants to turn me on and get me to bowl him over, it doesn't work. It just makes me want him to bowl me over.
Does this ring true with y'all?
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