angela146

On an individual person by person basis, the tradeoff is not necessary. I have no problem being seen as a sex object *and* intimidating men on a professional level.

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I think all men look at attractive women as sex objects, but it isn't our fault.

Ummm... here's a little secret... we think of you as sex objects too. We just don't talk about it (at least around men).

If you are at all physically attractive, I guarantee you that there are girls who have thought about having sex with you. Yes, I would bet hard currency that sometime in the next month, some girl/woman is going to close her eyes, put her hand between her legs, and finger herself while imagining that you are in bed with her. There is an orgasm with your name on it out there somewhere.

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I sometimes get very annoyed that women complain about this and yet at the same time they utlilize this aspect of human nature to get money/gifts, etc..

Don’t waste your time on women who complain about being thought of as sex objects… if you like thinking of women as sex objects. Keep your eye out for the ones that are checking out your butt.

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I'm sorry but women just seem so "career-minded" and self-centered yet so dependent on their sexuality,

Some of them are, but some of us are very career-minded, ruthless business people who “enjoy” our sexuality.

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their constant belittling of men and complaining about being seen as sex objects makes no sense to me.

It makes sense to me because I know that being a sex object can be a pain in the ass sometimes… but I don’t let it bother me and I don’t complain about it. If a man wants to think of me as a sex object and undress me in his mind, he is perfectly welcome to do so.

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I sometimes feel great animosity towards the female gender when I "shouldn't", like when I see female empowerment, I belittle it without really thinking because I am so disgusted with the female gender and how "weak" it is in any other aspect besides sexuality. I know this isn't "right", but it is just my natural response, maybe I have been conditioned by society to think this way, but it is how I think.

Good for you! The first step in dealing with a problem is understanding and accepting it. Now, if you want to change your attitude, and I think you do, try making friends with some strong women. Some of them are outgoing and friendly and others are quiet but really, really smart. Notice that I said “make *friends*” with them, not “try to get them in bed”. While you are doing so, don’t try to hide the fact that you like looking at their tits. You’re a guy. You like tits. The ones who get offended aren’t the ones you are looking for. The ones who can deal with it can really teach you something. BTW: try making friends with a girl who is intelligent but terribly flirtatious. Again, make friends with her but don’t give in to her sexual teasing. You might find that something interesting happens.

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Perhaps it is just human nature for females to exploit this unfortunate product of evolution, but I feel that it is much, much, much, much more voluntary than the way men "think" about sex.

Women thing about sex too, we just don’t talk about it as much. Having said that, there is nothing wrong with men using certain kinds of sexual power to their advantage. See this link: http://tfproject.org/tfp/showthread....095#post547095 …

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Sexuality really isn't needed THAT much anymore, and I feel it impedes the human race's progress.

Hogwash! Sex is fun!

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I just wish, even as unconcievable as it may be and as joyful as sexuality can be, that it didn't exist.

I feel very, sorry for you if that is really the case.

There are 3 billion+ women in this world. Some of them live in your area and are roughly your age. Out of those, some of them aren’t hung up on being thought of being seen as sex objects. There may not be all that many but you’re only one guy. You don’t need that many.

So, would I rather be considered as an equal to men in everything and lose the "sex object" tag that most men place on me? Hell no! I make more money than most men. I spend a lot of my time telling them how to run their IT projects. No man is my boss and no man has been my boss since I graduated from college (I’m self employed). Why would I want to be considered an equal to men? It’s more fun intimidating them.

Sexual equality: I don’t want that either. There’s one guy who I’ll willing lie on my back for any time he wants it and there are a few others who might get me there if they play their cards right, but that pales in comparison to the number who would fall on their knees for a chance to get a kiss from me.

Oh, and I like being a sex object. I like knowing that there are a lot of TFP folks drooling over my avatar and wanking off to my journal. It’s very rewarding.