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as Averrett has pointed out, its socially wired so that girls don't approach guys. For all the guys out there however nervous you feel approaching a girl, she would feel at least that threefold aproching you.
That said, If you approach a guy, and ask him for his number he will respond positively. Now since your not going to do that, and we all know it here are some things to try.
Flirt in a super sledgehammer style. Guys are very bad at reading symbols, so your going to need to be really blatant.
Try starting a conversation about signs that people give when they are really attracted to someone, and then giving all the signs. (if you don't know them some are playing with your hair, blinking a lot, touching the other person, staring in wrapped attention when they speak)
Try touching them often, and in very flirtatious ways. Though it seems inappropriate there is _no_ risk of rejection, so even the terminally shy can try this.
Make sure you drop in conversation that you don't currently have a boyfriend, and that you wish you did. A nice simple sentence that our canine brains could follow would be "I don't get out to the movies as much as I would like to, I wish I had a guy who would take me out to them"
Possibly the most powerful thing you can do among these is single out the guy you want, and get him away from both his friends and yours. Ask him if he will come to get something from your car with you, or walk you to your car (its all noble and stuff, as a lady you can basically ask for a protective escort anywhere) I lot of guys are too nervous to ask out a chick in front other people because if they get shot down it will be a public display.
Contrary to what Leviathan[NCV] says _do not_ play hard to get. Their are a lot of very shy guys who hardly have the ego to ask once, much less multiple times. If your looking for a husband/long term lover there is some merit to forcing him to pursue you, but thats after your already going out, and generally not what this thread is about.
Finally, there are a whole lot of places full of very desperate guys. (I know I am one) Almost any sort of technical meeting will have a lot of guys, of them many will not be desirable, but many will be quite cute. Most of them will be nice. Very very few of them will be into head-games, and most will be shy.
Try the local Linux Users Group. Hell if your going to do that you even have a pre-built zero risk semi-date you can come on with "Hi, I was thinking of installing Linux, but I want to make sure that I don't mess anything up, do you think you could come over to my house and help me?"
Oh yeah, I hear a lot of people also find their true love at the SCA (Society for Creative Anachronisms) Hell from what I have seen and heard (two freinds getting married to SCA girls) its like club med in 12th century garb for misfits (such as myself, I really need to start attending)
Thats about all I have as far as ideas. Remember if you ask them out they will say yes, so you could always try that.
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