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I think it is common, especially before a large commitment like marriage to start thinking "what if" about other girls. And being in my first and only relationship involving sex, I know the feeling, but unless the sex is bad, it probably won't be any different with other people. (I know you can't compare it if she is the only one, but I think you would be able to tell if it was horrible or amazing or just kind of blah.) If it was just becoming boring sex or a boring relationship, try and spice it up, try something new, but something new together.
There was a scene towards the end of High Fidelity, when John Cusack's character proposes to his girlfriend after be back together with her for only a day or two after splitting. He said that he always imagined that unlike her, other girls might only wear silky lingere (i have no idea how that's spelled) as opposed to cotton briefs and that his biggest concern in a relationship with another girl would be "oh how funny we got the same christmas present for each other", but in reality, that was just a dream, and that all girls have the cotton undies.
Yeah, you will probably see some real hot girls out there that you'd like to nail, but if you two were that compatible (to live togther for 1.5 years after dating 3) and loved each other, I think you threw away something wonderful.
How do you know if she's the one? Only you can decide that, and you decide your own terms. Just don't leave the decision making up to your penis.
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