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Originally posted by collide
[B]I think my jaw dropped five times reading that journal entry. Whoa, mama, that was pretty steamy stuff!
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Thank you!!! I love it when my journal entries has an effect on someone.
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...I'm really afraid to get this close to my already small circle of friends for fear of losing or alienating any of them. Maybe I need to learn to be more social and expand my network of friends. I don't know, maybe I'm just not ready for that level of intimacy.
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Hmmm remember that physical intimacy does not have to be sexual. It's is also a matter of degrees. Give shoulder massages every once in a while. It's fun, it makes your friends feel good, you get to put your hands on them etc. Doing that in a soothing way every once in a while will let women know that you like tenderness and you like giving pleasure.
That may elicit the kind of thing that happened with "K" (i.e. dropping subtle hints that she wants more). At the first sign of tension or reluctance, either back off or talk to her. Give her an opening to say how she feels. Sometimes tension is a lack of comfort and sometimes it just takes time for her to lower her guard. Sometimes it's just that her shoulders are sore.
Even if it never leads anywhere beyond backrubs, it's still good.