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Originally posted by im2smrt4u
The only tip you'll ever need: talk to her! As long as she knows what she likes, she can tell you what works and what doesn't. Very simple.
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I hate to burst the bubble, but... a *lot* of women don't know what they like. Some have never liked it, i.e. never masturbated or did and it wasn't all that good and haven't been with a guy or gal who is any good at sex.
Even women who have had good sex are not necessarily able to tell you how to do it. It's difficult to show a man how to touch a woman. I can put my fingers in a particular place and show him but the places are *so* small, it's hard to see.
Beyond that, it's difficult to give advice to a guy when he's in the middle of doing something. After a while, my husband realized that when I said "higher", it didn't mean "higher". If he moves higher, I don't experience it as being higher. He tried learning how to translate my verbal directions into "real directions" and it didn't work.
Eventually, I learned to just tell him what I *did* like and let him figure out what works and what doesn't.
Even my experiences of going down on women don't help me to describe what a guy should do with me. Women are different. What works on other women sometimes doesn't work on me.
Advice: focus more on the emotional content than the physical. Get her to relax. Talk, listen and listen some more. Be gently and try stuff. Just be aware that some things she says can't be taken literally. (The exception: "no", "stop", "quit it" etc. Those you may take *very* litterally).