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Originally posted by daoist
the pill is nearly foolproof if used properly. if her friend missed pills or was on the wrong dosage then THAT'S the reason she got pregnant. it wasn't a failure of the pill.
what's the pill's success ratio? like 98% or so? and let's say a condom's success (again, used properly) is 95%, that means using both is 99.9% effective. That's one in a thousand, and even though you think your girl is one in a million, you two aren't 1 in a thousand. you're one of the other 999 couples who don't get pregnant.
I'd talk to her about the proper use of birth control, get some facts and figures and just honestly talk about how you two can use birth control effectively. Make sure she's on the pill and she always takes it at the same time each day. Practice putting a condom on so that you both can do it. I'm sure her friend CLAIMS that they used their birth control properly. That's because no one wants to admit they screwed up.
Once you both know the proper methods for birth control then she will probably feel a lot better about sex.
is she this uptight about other things? if so, take a step back and maybe you and this girl aren't as compatible as you think.
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Actually the stats don't stack like that. The failure rate for the pill is made up mostly of people who mess up when they are taking it. The 95% and 93% stats I have seen for condom effectiveness are always for couples who "usually" use a condom. There is a study of couples who "have a high motivation to use a condom" I.E. one partner has aids, and they all show 100% effectiveness. A condom and the pill probably stack to something like 99% effective cause the people who can't get there shit together on one of them are more likely not to be able to get there shit together with the other, and thats what causes failures.
On a side note, I know about this because my highschool sweetheart had a condition that kept her off the pill, and was also really paranoid about getting knocked up. Sadly it never got worked out despite a lot of trying on both our parts.