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frostfell · 08-14-2003, 02:34 AM

I've been going out with my girl for over a year now, and I sure can tell you, it's been tough. Although we always have oral sex and mutually masturbate, we never have sex. We've probably had sex about 10 times (once a month), and she was always up tight and nervous. I finally confronted her about this, and she said she's afraid, because her friend got pregnant even though she was on birth control and the guy was wearing a condom.
My girlfriend is on birth control, and I wear a condom all the time....but it seems like since this happened I am doomed because she KNOWS in her head that I will somehow get her pregnant. I complained to her that it's REALLY unlikely, and she told me that I don't understand, and blah blah blah.

What do I do in this situation? I'm a guy who needs sex, but I could NOT see myself without this girl. She means the world to me. Am I supposed to wait until we get married, and have our careers at a good enough point so she won't have to worry about having babies hopping around?

Or is there a way I can show her the facts of pregnancy with condoms AND birth control at the same time? If so, I have to find a way to tell her about the statistics, without me shoving it in her face, or she'll know I just want to satisfy myself, and not her.

Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

08-14-2003, 02:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
frostfell Upright	AFRAID of sex? I've been going out with my girl for over a year now, and I sure can tell you, it's been tough. Although we always have oral sex and mutually masturbate, we never have sex. We've probably had sex about 10 times (once a month), and she was always up tight and nervous. I finally confronted her about this, and she said she's afraid, because her friend got pregnant even though she was on birth control and the guy was wearing a condom. My girlfriend is on birth control, and I wear a condom all the time....but it seems like since this happened I am doomed because she KNOWS in her head that I will somehow get her pregnant. I complained to her that it's REALLY unlikely, and she told me that I don't understand, and blah blah blah. What do I do in this situation? I'm a guy who needs sex, but I could NOT see myself without this girl. She means the world to me. Am I supposed to wait until we get married, and have our careers at a good enough point so she won't have to worry about having babies hopping around? Or is there a way I can show her the facts of pregnancy with condoms AND birth control at the same time? If so, I have to find a way to tell her about the statistics, without me shoving it in her face, or she'll know I just want to satisfy myself, and not her. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks.