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This happens to me, and it has been a source of frustration to my wife who can't understand that it just happens. Early on in our relationship, she couldn't get off on intercourse except on rare occasions. I got off every single time. This was helped by me mainly manipulating her in certain positions however the results were still less than spectacular. She had her best orgasms using the jet tub at home. I finally convinced her to show me how she did it, and I started getting her off with my hand. Now she has an orgasm or two almost every single time. However now that I am a little older I don't always come right away. Sometimes I get tired in the middle and lose my erection for a short bit. I rest up about 5 minutes and then we are back at it. Also, if I'm highly distracted going into sex (due to thinking about a problem at work, etc.), I find it very difficult to maintain an erection to completion. This happens about 1 in 8 or 9 times that we have sex (too tired or distracted). It isn't a big thing to me, but it can upset her. We try to not have sex now when we are tired or one or either of us is distracted. One way I found to help this is to really get mentally connected ahead of the event. We will sit on the bed and just talk and touch each other for 15 to 20 minutes. This is great foreplay and really gets you in the "zone".
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