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Originally posted by tset
I keep telling myself: "If it is meant to be, we'll get back together"
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Good marriages aren't "meant to be" and good houses don't build themselves. They're both built and maintained with hard work. If you wait for something that's meant to be you could end up with a lot of regrets.
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Anyone out there think we can get back together, get married, and live happily ever after??
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I think you can if you do it right now.
I have the best marriage of anyone I know and it's because my husband and I *both* do *whatever it takes* to keep the relationship good. That's the only way I know that works.
If that means throwing yourself on the ground at her feet and groveling, then do it. If you both feel that monogamy is important to you, then forsake all other women and marry her.
It also means that she has to do the same. Somehow you have to talk to her and reach that part of her that still loves you. She has to be willing to forgive you and either trust you to never stray or let you have an occasional dalliance once in a while.
Am I being unreasonable? Yup, but marriage isn't about being reasonable. It's about committment and putting the relationship first.
Check out the thread: "A dialog about marriage."
http://tfproject.org/tfp/showthread....light=marriage