I ahve read most of the posts in this thread, I appologize I didn't read them all before this.....and the first thing that came to my mind was...to be even a bit more annonomous and make a fake hotmail acct. and e-mail her about it...if you want to tell her you will share your identity with her..then she can e-mail you back and step up to the plate later...but at least let her know abuot it as privatly as possible. I am sure it might make her feel a bit weird because then she has to guess who saw it...so don't tell her its someone from work...just that if she really wants to know you will share it with her...but you didn't want to make her umcomfy...
who knows..that might not be a good idea either...good luck whatever you do
I see now that someone else already said it...I was just alittle more long winded!!