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neoinoakleys · 08-11-2003, 09:50 AM

You are a doormat. You have let things go on for WAY too long. You owe him nothing!!

It is time for him to "sink or swim." The longer you keep him under your roof, the more he will not appreciate the things you do for him.

My suggestion, KICK HIM OUT....Tonight, no... NOW!! Change the locks, and tell him it is time, he was responsible for his actions. Look away!! You owe him nothing more. Give him moral support ONLY if he asks for it, and NEVER support him financially again. I can't stress this enough...NEVER give him financial support. This is going to be the toughest thing you do, but he REALLY needs it. He will learn to be responsible once he has to fend for himself.

I was never as bad as your son, but my parents did the same thing, and I will tell now, it was the best thing they EVER did. To this day my parents do not give me anything but moral support, and we get along GREAT now. I worked odd jobs for a few years and realized that life was not all fun and partying. I finally woke up and matured, put myself through college and got a great job that everyone could be proud of. Sounds to me like your son is similar to me in that we both had to learn responsibility and consequences of our actions the hard way.

He will either do one of 2 things, he will become a loser, end up in jail and have no future, or he will wisen up and realize that this is not the kind of life he wants to lead and mature and finally do something to change his demeanor.

This is not something that can be taught ANY other way other than to just cut the strings. It will be hard to turn your back, but for your sake and his....DO IT!!!

My 2 cents...

Feel free to PM me if you want any more details...

08-11-2003, 09:50 AM	#64 (permalink)
neoinoakleys Psycho Location: Michigan	You are a doormat. You have let things go on for WAY too long. You owe him nothing!! It is time for him to "sink or swim." The longer you keep him under your roof, the more he will not appreciate the things you do for him. My suggestion, KICK HIM OUT....Tonight, no... NOW!! Change the locks, and tell him it is time, he was responsible for his actions. Look away!! You owe him nothing more. Give him moral support ONLY if he asks for it, and NEVER support him financially again. I can't stress this enough...NEVER give him financial support. This is going to be the toughest thing you do, but he REALLY needs it. He will learn to be responsible once he has to fend for himself. I was never as bad as your son, but my parents did the same thing, and I will tell now, it was the best thing they EVER did. To this day my parents do not give me anything but moral support, and we get along GREAT now. I worked odd jobs for a few years and realized that life was not all fun and partying. I finally woke up and matured, put myself through college and got a great job that everyone could be proud of. Sounds to me like your son is similar to me in that we both had to learn responsibility and consequences of our actions the hard way. He will either do one of 2 things, he will become a loser, end up in jail and have no future, or he will wisen up and realize that this is not the kind of life he wants to lead and mature and finally do something to change his demeanor. This is not something that can be taught ANY other way other than to just cut the strings. It will be hard to turn your back, but for your sake and his....DO IT!!! My 2 cents... Feel free to PM me if you want any more details... __________________ It's My Duty to Please That Booty!!