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Whew. This is pretty close to home for me. I've been supporting people in grief in my life for a few months now.
The thing that's been most important for me to remember is this: there's nothing to <i>fix</i> about his grief. Don't try to get him over it or get him through it. Just be there with him and his shock and his sadness. It's all appropriate--they're appropriate feelings for what he's been through and is going through.
You have to watch out for what "comfort" means to you. Don't try to cheer him up. Don't try to make him feel better. Your whole job is to understand where he's at, and have that be the <i>perfect</i> place for him to be. He probably feels weird that he's feeling weird, you know? Do everything you can to make it okay and normal that he's feeling weird.
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