OK, I'm in a similar situation myself except that neither of us have a sig. other at this point in time. We were together for 3.5 years but the last year was really not a gf/bf relationship but more that of good friends who hugged in bed (no sex for the last 8 months - how stupid was I). Anyway, we're still really good friends and I can't see that changing unless he gets a jealous girlfriend or I get a jealous boyfriend. We've spoken about it and agreed that our behaviour towards each other would necessarily have to alter in that instance.
While it's easy to say that the girlfriend in the above mentioned scenario is just being jealous, the guy has to realise that of course she's going to be insecure about this woman he has been intimate with for so long and who is now really good friends with.
Either encourage the girls to spend some time together so the gf can see she is not a threat or just back off for the sake of your new gf until the ex gets herself a S.O. Hopefully the ex will understand this situation and allow a bit of distance so you can cement your relationship with the new gf.
If however she is jealous of all your relationships with members of the opposite sex, or can't understand being friends with someone of the opposite sex, or stays insecure and wants to control all your female interaction .. DUMP her! Makes for an easier life and who wants to be with someone who doesn't trust them! (callous I know but what the hey!)
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