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antihero3zx · 08-05-2003, 07:38 AM

Ok, how to get women interested in you..

first off.. ditch any nice guy notions you may have that nice guys dont want sex. Nice guys/good people LOVE sex. Nice guys enjoy giving women pleasure. Lately idiots have been trying to beat it into men that nice guys are asexual or have to wait for the women to give him a written invitation. This is not true. You are the man, you have sexual urges, you should act on them. You should think of sex with a woman as pleasurable for both of you. She is not 'doing you a favor'. you are a young attractive guy, you are bringing just as much to the table as a young attractive girl, of which there are plenty. Girls are not worthy of respect until its earned, and are almost never worthy of awe. They are just silly girls until they prove otherwise. Of course worthy of basic human respect at all times, but don't let yourself get too worked up about them before you know anything about them.

First off, do make your intentions known asap. DONT play 'nice guy'/'clown'/'friend' all night then try to hook up with her. it rarely works. If you see a girl you like, within 15 minutes you should be trying to get a vibe going. Give her your best confident smile, and hold eye contact a little longer then is comfortable. When she looks away, you look away, then make sure your concious of your body. look away, but make sure you are in an attractive confident pose, because she will look again if shes at all interested.

try to touch as early as possible. find any excuse to start non threatening, non sexual touching as early as possible. brush her hand when you pass her her drink then work up progressively to more and more intimate touches. youll want to start with the innocent stuff and if she responds positively (ie, doesnt pull back/move away) then progress. you should workup to touching lower back, arms, hands, shoulders, etc fairly quickly. try to make it natural, and unapologetic so you dont 'skeeve her out'. never act sneaky/sly etc.. Im just starting to play with personal space, so im not really that good with it yet. leaning in to whisper/talk over loud noise seems to work well. Not only does it give you a legitimate reason to be in her personal space, it also gives a sense intimacy and connection. Touching is absolute key. first and most important it established comfort and sensuality. keep it up throughout the night or you would be amazed how you can lose a good vibe. Secondly, if you are at all atuned to the woman, you will very quickly know if she is at all interested or not. Im not a fan of the hard sell. If shes not diggin what i have to offer at least somewhat, then either settle for pleasant conversation or move on. much less frustration/wasted time. Some people have great success being more pushy/assertive but thats not my style.

Play up any similarities. This is absolutely key. To make someone feel comfortable quickly you have to have a few things in common. Find the closest common interest/history you have and play it up. Its fine to be different, but you have to have some common ground.

be in the right place at the right time. This is not what it sounds like. Make SURE you are in the right places at the right time. if you hangout with the same people all the time its just not going to happen if it hasnt happened yet. Go to places where the women you want are, and where they are open to meeting new people, and do meet them. if you see a hot girl come in and you dont feel like talking to her just then, at least walk up to one of her friends, say nice shirt or something similar (a little more interesting wouldnt hurt) , and walk off. they will all say who was that cute guy and when you come back later you will be the cute guy from earlier instead of some stranger. Waiting rarely pays off. act fast or lose out.

ummm i can think of a bunch more stuff.. but is this the kind of detailed info you are looking for?

08-05-2003, 07:38 AM	#32 (permalink)
antihero3zx Upright	Ok, how to get women interested in you.. first off.. ditch any nice guy notions you may have that nice guys dont want sex. Nice guys/good people LOVE sex. Nice guys enjoy giving women pleasure. Lately idiots have been trying to beat it into men that nice guys are asexual or have to wait for the women to give him a written invitation. This is not true. You are the man, you have sexual urges, you should act on them. You should think of sex with a woman as pleasurable for both of you. She is not 'doing you a favor'. you are a young attractive guy, you are bringing just as much to the table as a young attractive girl, of which there are plenty. Girls are not worthy of respect until its earned, and are almost never worthy of awe. They are just silly girls until they prove otherwise. Of course worthy of basic human respect at all times, but don't let yourself get too worked up about them before you know anything about them. First off, do make your intentions known asap. DONT play 'nice guy'/'clown'/'friend' all night then try to hook up with her. it rarely works. If you see a girl you like, within 15 minutes you should be trying to get a vibe going. Give her your best confident smile, and hold eye contact a little longer then is comfortable. When she looks away, you look away, then make sure your concious of your body. look away, but make sure you are in an attractive confident pose, because she will look again if shes at all interested. try to touch as early as possible. find any excuse to start non threatening, non sexual touching as early as possible. brush her hand when you pass her her drink then work up progressively to more and more intimate touches. youll want to start with the innocent stuff and if she responds positively (ie, doesnt pull back/move away) then progress. you should workup to touching lower back, arms, hands, shoulders, etc fairly quickly. try to make it natural, and unapologetic so you dont 'skeeve her out'. never act sneaky/sly etc.. Im just starting to play with personal space, so im not really that good with it yet. leaning in to whisper/talk over loud noise seems to work well. Not only does it give you a legitimate reason to be in her personal space, it also gives a sense intimacy and connection. Touching is absolute key. first and most important it established comfort and sensuality. keep it up throughout the night or you would be amazed how you can lose a good vibe. Secondly, if you are at all atuned to the woman, you will very quickly know if she is at all interested or not. Im not a fan of the hard sell. If shes not diggin what i have to offer at least somewhat, then either settle for pleasant conversation or move on. much less frustration/wasted time. Some people have great success being more pushy/assertive but thats not my style. Play up any similarities. This is absolutely key. To make someone feel comfortable quickly you have to have a few things in common. Find the closest common interest/history you have and play it up. Its fine to be different, but you have to have some common ground. be in the right place at the right time. This is not what it sounds like. Make SURE you are in the right places at the right time. if you hangout with the same people all the time its just not going to happen if it hasnt happened yet. Go to places where the women you want are, and where they are open to meeting new people, and do meet them. if you see a hot girl come in and you dont feel like talking to her just then, at least walk up to one of her friends, say nice shirt or something similar (a little more interesting wouldnt hurt) , and walk off. they will all say who was that cute guy and when you come back later you will be the cute guy from earlier instead of some stranger. Waiting rarely pays off. act fast or lose out. ummm i can think of a bunch more stuff.. but is this the kind of detailed info you are looking for?