Double D

Ah yes, I supposes it's the *this will hurt me, more than it will you* adage.
It would be so much easier if I didn't love him as a mother, but though there's been times when I wanted to strangle him, I still end up feeling like his mom and though it may be rational to force him to leave, it in no way feels like what a loving parent does.

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I guess in short...I have no answer. Just know that, for what it's worth, you have my sympathies, and I'll be thinking about you. I hope everything works out to a satisfactory conclusion...it's too late to be "O.K."

Yes it is very much too late to be okay.

Sometime early this morning, our car appeared out front.
Though he kept my car key, he left this note:

I'm really sorry about the car and the way I left the house. I won't make excuses but if I hadn't cleared up my court case (note: used our car with the full tank of gas to drive several hours away) I would have gone to jail. And I still have to go (to court) on Wednesday.
But I've been too stupid with what I've been doing so I'm going to give up now. Bye.

He's nothing if not manipulative.

I believe he's at work now. Whenever he comes back here, he'll be given several hours to pack his gear, then be asked/told to leave.

G_Whiz, thank you for reminding me to stay calm. I've asked my husband to quietly mention a code word to me that we've discussed, if I appear to be getting pulled into my son's sympathy dance.
And, though he probably won't want to hear it, and the feeling rings rather hollow for me right now, I will ask him to please touch base with me when he gets some kind of life going for himself.

Again thanks to all who've taken time to write, both here and to me personally. Your support gives me strength, and when I feel a bit shakey about that, I re-read your comments. They help a lot.