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Your son's behaviour is quite similar to a young man, who I attempted to help. He too was declared a deliquent and his parents kicked him out of their home. He literally left with only the clothes on his back. Of course he blamed everyone but himself for this, however, he did decide to get a job and support himself. To help him in his endeavor I arranged transportation to and from his job and also subsidized some of his living expenses. The sad thing is that he really didn't want to work or to help himself and he lost a pretty good job. His behaviour has continued to denegrate ever since.
His real personality has manifested itself over the last two years, and he subsequently has been convicted of theft, assault, menacing and fraud. He also stole items from my home and absconded with a gas card which was abused considerably.
I'm detailing this for you because some people, no matter how hard you try to help them, refuse to help themselves.
Try to get him into therapy and if he doesn't improve within an appropriate time frame, as painful as it will be, show him the door.
Good luck.
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"The gift of liberty is like that of a horse, handsome, strong, and high-spirited. In some it arouses a wish to ride; in many others, on the contrary, it increases the desire to walk."
-- Massimo d'Azeglio
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