angela146

A detailed reply from a woman's perspective:

The article is *very* good for what it says. It gives a lot of good info. I would suggest trying most of what it suggests.

However, there are some very important missing details, the kind of thing that you wouldn't know unless you are female *and* have had the luxury of being with a good lover or two.

The glans of the clitoris (once it is erect and you can get to it) is similar to the glans of a penis in another important way. Most men describe the top face of the glans as being Extremely "surface sensative" and the underside of the glans as being more of a deep inside feeling.

This is because there are two main pleasure-inducing nerves that feed the pubic area (in both men and women). The upper one is a very intense over-sensative nerve and the lower one is a more subtle but "gut-wrenching, I can feel it in my bones" nerve.

I presume that if you gentlemen take some lube and use it to massage the top side of your glans, it will feel very intense but not bring you to orgasm. However, if you cup the underside of the glans and stroke it with the same lube it will build the excitement that makes you orgasm.

In intercourse, a penis get stimulation from both sides. It's kind of a cocktail (pun intended). You guys take that for granted. We don't get that very often.

As the article said, a clitoris is a lot like a penis. If you lick the clitoris (or finger it when it's wet) from underneath and are very careful to not stroke the top face, you may find that it really excites a woman without the "oversensative" problems. As she gets closer to orgasm, you can give the top side some quick flicks to add to the pleasure, but, keep yourself focused on the underside.

Now, let's talk about the shaft. Our shafts are internal (like the article said).

One effective way of stimulating the shaft is from inside the vagina, at the famous G spot. From there you can also reach an organ that is similar to the prostate.

Most men I have talked to, say that stimulating the prostate once they are excited gives a very pleasurable feeling similar to undercupping the glans and/or shaft. Touch the G-spot the same way you would want your prostate massaged (but gentler, ours are smaller).

To make all of this happen at once, you can use your tongue on the under and upper sides of the clitoris and use your index finger inside the vagina along the upper wall to stroke the g-spot.

The other way is through intercourse. Use the head of your penis to stroke the G-spot. Keep it shallow most of the time but take a long full thrust maybe every 6-7 strokes. At the bottom of the long stroke, swivel and grind into her pubic bone to give the upper clitoris some stimulation. Don't be afraid to suggest that she touch herself while you are doing this.

Now for the "hard part" (pun intended). If you come while you are in her, and she hasn't come yet, *don't stop*. Keep right on stroking without a pause. Some men can actually keep it hard and enjoy it *as long as they don't stop for the orgasm*. Keep it going for her and you may bring her off more easily than you think.

Obvious question: Why don't we women tell you all about this stuff?

Simple answer: We can't tell you what we don't know.

Your girlfriend or wife might not know any of this. Her mother probably didn't tell her and she may not have found any of it when she was masturbating as a child. Men can see what they are doing and have a large, mostly external object to work with.

We have to figure it out through experimentation and some of us never do. Do not assume that a woman will be able to guide you through the process of making her feel good. Do not assume that she knows her own body.

She might know a lot, she might know a little. She might need your help.