wow, that's a long post..
i read the first half of it though
, but i'll through in my 2 cents if it's worth anything...
anyways, i really think that you should let the girlfriend figure out things on her own... she's the one that has to learn that the boyfriend isn't worth going out w/...
in a way, i'm kinda in the same boat as you.. my bro is dating a girl. however, my whole family including my parents feel that she doesn't have what it takes to be w/ my bro.... to be honest, she acts like she's a freaking 12 year old, never does anything to help around.. she is 21 and doesn't even have a job... just relies on her parent's credit card and gets everything fromt here... i also believe that the presents that she gives to my bro are from her mom's money
.. i find it pretty sad...
but through all this and no matter what i think, i'm gonna keep my mouth shut and let my bro figure things out (hopefully).. there's no reason for me to bitch about her and ruin my friendship w/ my bro... she isn't worth it and never will be.. when my bro finally "see's the light", i think that it'll help him be a better person in the end.. i don't wanna hold his hand and tell him wha'ts good or what's bad for him, he has to figure it out on his own..
sorry for such a long ass post